Craig gets his cheek swabbed, C gets his cheek swabbed. We wait 6 weeks for the results. We didn't worry, we pretty much knew that the results would say that Craig was the father. The letter came in the mail the week after Independence Day...Looking back on that now, it is sort of ironic. It was our last Independence from CRAZINESS Day. The letter comes in the mail and this time I wait for Craig to get home from work. I didn't want to be alone and open that letter. Our life was about to change forever. MY life was about to change. I was about to be thrust into a role I never thought I would play. Step-mother. I should also mention that I am on bed rest due to my blood pressure with A. I was 9 months pregnant and had about 2 weeks left before my due date.
Craig gets home from work and we open the letter together. It states he is 99.77999 % the father of the child in question. We both cry. He starts apologizing!!! I tell him he has NOTHING to apologize for. I am happy that he turned out to be the father. The other contestants(LOL) were not father material in my eyes. We went back to court and the child support order was entered and the visitation order. Looking back, I really think Chrissy expected Craig to sign over his rights and just pay child support, not take part in C's life. Boy was she ever wrong!
Craig went to the first visitation by himself. I didn't want to overwhelm C with everyone. It went well. He was only 19 months old. The first 3 or 4 visitations were at his home. Then she decided that we could bring him to our house for a weekend once a month. The first time was really horrible!e! C cried all the way home, and just about the entire time he was there. He was finally getting used to us and then we had to take him back home.
I don't really recall when Chrissy started acting mental. Our first Christmas with him, she wouldn't let him come. She claimed he was sick, but we found out she was going to her mother's and just didn't want to tell us. We got him the next day.
We have come to find out that if Chrissy's lips are moving, chances are she is lying! One of the first lies she told was that she was pregnant with her husband's baby. I should mention here that her husband was in prison for arson and burglary. I have called her out on so many of the lies, yet she continues. She just doesn't learn her lesson. We have been told that she has a mental problem...Ya think??
I won't bore you with anymore history. C's mother is crazy, C is the one paying the ultimate price, we have to stand by and watch what she does to him, ultimately us, because we don't have the money to hire an attorney, and the courts are on the mother's side, instead of the best interest of the child.
Until next time!!
Saturday, August 25, 2012
Wednesday, August 22, 2012
Our Story...Part 1
I am going to explode if I don't find an outlet for all this frustration! I have always been better at writing out, or in this case typing, than I have been vocally. So, this is how I am going to record my frustration. Then I am going to start walking. I can at least get healthy while I am angry!
So the past 12 years of my life have been great, and bad, and better, and worse. about this time 13 years ago, I met the love of my life, Craig. We met through a telephone dating service. Really, we did!! We played phone tag for a couple of weeks and then finally connected. And connect we did! We spend hours on the phone the first night! We talked every night just about all night. Then we decided to meet. I wanted it to be a public place although I wasn't scared at all! We met at a gas station. I was in the store when he pulled up and he saw me through the window. He later told me that he thought I looked like an angel. He was and still is so sweet! We talked for a while there and then I had him follow me home. We watched a movie and stayed up all night. He left at 4:30 in the morning to go to work. I didn't have cell service where I lived and when I went out later that morning I got a voicemail from him. I still remember what it said. "Hi Beautiful. I wanted to tell you that I had a wonderful night and I hope you have a great day. Get some sleep and I will talk to you tonight." I melted! I knew that I had found someone special. We were together every night after that.
We moved in together after 2 months. Everyone said we were rushing things but we knew that we would be together for the rest of our lives. We went and picked out rings. Craig proposed to me on my birthday March 15, 2001. We married on April 26, 2001. It was a small ceremony officiated by Craig's uncle at a church that I never even knew existed until about a week before the wedding. We got married on a Thursday night because April 26 is Craig's father's birthday and we wanted to make the day even more special. Gordon Carden went to be with Jesus when Craig was 8.
So fast forward almost a year and we are in the month of April 2002. My dad lives with us, W and M live with us, I am pregnant with A, we are working on getting our new home on wheels set up and a letter arrives in the mail from DHR addressed to Craig. I go ahead and open it because I have a suspicion to what it is. My heart leaps and drops at the same time as my suspicions are confirmed. A woman is seeking child support from Craig. Now to back track a little, he was upfront with me that there was a possibility that this woman was carrying his child. They were together several months before we met and she told him she was pregnant. He found out that the entire time they had been together she had been cheating on him. He broke up with her. She called in January 2001 to as she put it "Let you know your son was born" but wouldn't let us see the child. She said she didn't want him having anything to do with her son. Ummm...then why did you call??
We called DHR trying to get a paternity test done and they wouldn't even dream of it! Told us that the mother has to initiate that. What a crock! You have a man that wants to take responsibility and pay child support and be in his child's life and you want the mother's consent for that. CRAZY!!
So we didn't have the money to go through a lawyer and private DNA firm and we dropped it. Fast forward back to April 2002.
I called Craig at work and let him know. He took the next day off work and we went to an attorney's office and had him write up a letter that states we want a DNA test before any support. We got a court date in the mail for May 30 2002. We show up and see C for the first time. He is almost 18 months old. He looks just like Craig. We didn't even have to have the DNA test. We already knew. We still had to go through the formality. Family court is really messed up. This woman had Craig and 2 other men listed as possible fathers. The judge worded the petition as if the men were the ones not sure who the father was. Whoever turned out to be the father is the one that had to pay for the DNA test..so you guessed it! We had to pay for the test although she is the one who was cheating and didn't really know who the father was!! RIDICULOUS!!!
So I guess this post is long enough...I will finish up the story next time...It only gets crazier as we go!!
So the past 12 years of my life have been great, and bad, and better, and worse. about this time 13 years ago, I met the love of my life, Craig. We met through a telephone dating service. Really, we did!! We played phone tag for a couple of weeks and then finally connected. And connect we did! We spend hours on the phone the first night! We talked every night just about all night. Then we decided to meet. I wanted it to be a public place although I wasn't scared at all! We met at a gas station. I was in the store when he pulled up and he saw me through the window. He later told me that he thought I looked like an angel. He was and still is so sweet! We talked for a while there and then I had him follow me home. We watched a movie and stayed up all night. He left at 4:30 in the morning to go to work. I didn't have cell service where I lived and when I went out later that morning I got a voicemail from him. I still remember what it said. "Hi Beautiful. I wanted to tell you that I had a wonderful night and I hope you have a great day. Get some sleep and I will talk to you tonight." I melted! I knew that I had found someone special. We were together every night after that.
We moved in together after 2 months. Everyone said we were rushing things but we knew that we would be together for the rest of our lives. We went and picked out rings. Craig proposed to me on my birthday March 15, 2001. We married on April 26, 2001. It was a small ceremony officiated by Craig's uncle at a church that I never even knew existed until about a week before the wedding. We got married on a Thursday night because April 26 is Craig's father's birthday and we wanted to make the day even more special. Gordon Carden went to be with Jesus when Craig was 8.
So fast forward almost a year and we are in the month of April 2002. My dad lives with us, W and M live with us, I am pregnant with A, we are working on getting our new home on wheels set up and a letter arrives in the mail from DHR addressed to Craig. I go ahead and open it because I have a suspicion to what it is. My heart leaps and drops at the same time as my suspicions are confirmed. A woman is seeking child support from Craig. Now to back track a little, he was upfront with me that there was a possibility that this woman was carrying his child. They were together several months before we met and she told him she was pregnant. He found out that the entire time they had been together she had been cheating on him. He broke up with her. She called in January 2001 to as she put it "Let you know your son was born" but wouldn't let us see the child. She said she didn't want him having anything to do with her son. Ummm...then why did you call??
We called DHR trying to get a paternity test done and they wouldn't even dream of it! Told us that the mother has to initiate that. What a crock! You have a man that wants to take responsibility and pay child support and be in his child's life and you want the mother's consent for that. CRAZY!!
So we didn't have the money to go through a lawyer and private DNA firm and we dropped it. Fast forward back to April 2002.
I called Craig at work and let him know. He took the next day off work and we went to an attorney's office and had him write up a letter that states we want a DNA test before any support. We got a court date in the mail for May 30 2002. We show up and see C for the first time. He is almost 18 months old. He looks just like Craig. We didn't even have to have the DNA test. We already knew. We still had to go through the formality. Family court is really messed up. This woman had Craig and 2 other men listed as possible fathers. The judge worded the petition as if the men were the ones not sure who the father was. Whoever turned out to be the father is the one that had to pay for the DNA test..so you guessed it! We had to pay for the test although she is the one who was cheating and didn't really know who the father was!! RIDICULOUS!!!
So I guess this post is long enough...I will finish up the story next time...It only gets crazier as we go!!
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